What is Healing? Defined as awareness of balance, the understanding of healing shifts from a sense of possible brokenness to awareness of value and worth.
Healing is Balance.
Balance always Is.
What brings attention to balance is awareness.
Within awareness is where Balance Is in this moment for you.
To heal is to shift awareness to the presence of wholeness and balance.
Look at the origin of the word heal and find a long history within English, the various romance and Germanic languages, and into the Proto Indo-European roots that heal has the sense of making whole, finding wholeness.
Thus, for a very long time humanity has given attention to wholeness as a part of the human experience.
However, through limiting belief and dogma, comes the idea that this wholeness is broken and must somehow be restored. Whether this is the belief of brokenness of the garden of Eden or the established rules of power equating most as incapable, healing has been established as fixing the broken, mending the unworthy, lamenting that some are inherently so bad and, thus, unfixable.
The good news is that this perspective can be shifted to support a new outlook and a new restored foundation for health and wellbeing.
Begin with a new awareness. Begin with what you know about yourself.
Begin with this idea: balance always is.
Balance, like healing, is another experience overburdened with the belief that balance is in need of correcting or fixing or making do with the not quite right. You are out of balance and must find balance and fix the brokenness keeping you out of balance. Plus, this imbalance is your fault because you are inherently unworthy or unfixable.
Let’s address this issue of self-worth right now.
Most of us grow up believing we must go out into the world to prove personal worth. I call this Blind Production. Blind because you can’t see what you’re supposed to do. Production because the focus is on producing or doing.
This book is based on this idea:
You can’t prove your worth.
Your worth is intrinsic and needs no proving.
This means without doing or proving anything:
You are inherently whole, valuable, and worthy.
Stop … really feel into this statement:
I am inherently whole, valuable, and worthy.
When I first began this “healing” work for myself, this was a statement that challenged me deeply. A statement which in the beginning felt like I was telling myself a lie.
Please … take another moment. Breathe deeply.
Now as you say this to yourself, pay attention to how you feel and whatever begins to run through your mind:
I am intrinsically whole, valuable, and worthy.
This is where you are in this moment about your self-worth. If you are really struggling add “I am learning that…” before the statement to make it easier to declare.
I go down this road because your sense of self-worth is directly connected to your sense of balance. If you are struggling with worthiness, then me suggesting that you are in balance in this moment is hard to hear and challenging to feel.
Whereas, if you are more at ease with your personal sense of worth, feeling balance in this moment is not a far stretch.
One of my intentions for you in this book is that you become comfortable with self-worth and your ability to connect personal awareness with balance. In fact, each step through these concepts will refine and deepen personal worth and balance.
Additionally, I just quietly slid in a practice of awareness focusing on what you feel, paying attention to the words in your mind, consciously repeating words of personal power – this all is processed through the broad reaches of your awareness.
Plus, I suggested you focus on your sense of worth and value – your wholeness. Maybe you felt a hitch here or there. Yet this is the beginning into a new approach to healing:
To heal is to shift awareness to the presence of your wholeness.
In a bit, I’ll return to this idea on a deeper level. Just in case you’re feeling resistance, I wanted to point out you have already begun to shift to Balance Is and your awareness of your wholeness.
What do I mean: balance always is?
Energetically, on all levels body, mind, heart, and soul, the flow of life is always in balance. This is the nature of the infinite and eternal ebb and flow: balance.
Thus, balance exists and is not in need of being created. The nature or the foundation of all existence is balance.
Connected with All That Is, you are in balance in every moment. Balance isn’t something in need of creating. Instead, balance is a matter of awareness.
You learn to be aware of your balance. Within this awareness, you can shift the inner need to fix towards your inner awareness of balance.
This shifts the conversation away from a focus of fix what is not whole. Now attention goes to what awareness reveals is in resistance or blocking my inherent sense of balance.
This might seem like a ridiculous perspective and not really different from the urge to create balance. However, this is an extremely important nuance.
Instead of beginning with I am broken, and I must create balance, you’re shifting your starting point.
Now inner dialogue begins with I am whole and aware. Plus, you are also able to acknowledge: I don’t always know where my balance is in the moment.
This nuance is the primary starting point for a spiritual healing path:
I am intrinsically whole, valuable, and worthy.
Through my awareness, balance is.
To heal is to shift awareness to balance and wholeness.
Along the way, I can identify blocks and resistance to balance and wholeness.
This nuance shifts your entire trajectory. No longer needing to fix the broken, the focus becomes assessing challenge and block to awareness of balance.
Here’s the next important point. Where Balance Is in each moment shifts and changes. Balance is not the same from moment to moment. Where your Balance Is today is not where balance was yesterday nor will be tomorrow.
This is awesome news!
Though this is understandably frustrating because you work hard to become aware of balance in this moment and then again in the next.
However, balance shifts moment to moment because this is a creative universe. Life learns, grows, releases, and expands moment to moment.
Human beings are not static, always the same. We all engage in creative expression. Who you were yesterday is different from who you are in this moment and will be tomorrow.
The nature of the universe is creative growth. Balance is aligned with this fundamental creative nature. Thus, balance always Is in each and every moment.
Plus, your awareness is the perfect tool to connect with balance. Through awareness you can perceive balance and you can perceive what stands in the way of your awareness of balance.
This reframes the idea of healing away from fixing and doing. Now healing begins within personal awareness and attention to the motion of you, body, mind, heart, and soul.
Let’s take a step back and to the side to consider an adjacent topic.
What brought you to this book? Perhaps you are not feeling healthy in some way. Perhaps you want to try a healing path within the Akashic Records.
Whatever brings you to this book, you may be asking yourself how this balance thing is going to heal my achy back or cure my cancer or release my trauma?
The short answer is awareness of balance doesn’t “cure” anything.
Instead, awareness of balance provides a new starting point in how you perceive you and your life and you approach healing as a spiritual journey of awareness.
Thoughts of brokenness and of unworthiness create stress. Often assumed and left unspoken, these thoughts populate within choice and perspective, and encourage a negative outlook.
Moving away from the sense of unworthiness creates room for personal awareness to take in more clearly the condition of your life. Like wiping foggy condensation from glasses or front windows, how you perceive life and its possibility shifts. One way to describe the shift is to say life gets more real. Another is to say you’re no longer living in the state of denial.
At the same time, part of the reason fix-it mode is preferred is that it is easier to pass responsibility to your doctor or therapist. Fear, which we’ll discuss in depth later, gets hold and refuses to budge. Fear pushes expectation to kick self-awareness out of the present moment. Blame sticks you in the past as a victim. More fear glues attention to the future where your personal power is not accessible. Judgment pins all failure on you and your worthless, pathetic self. No wonder getting someone too “heal” you feels like the right choice. Your brokenness seems to prove your incompetence and thus the need to rely on another to fix you.
Plus, when you are still ill or broken, there is someone to blame besides you. This creates a feedback loop which reinforces worthlessness and diminishes the possibilities of self-responsibility and self-awareness.
No matter how we might pretend, denying responsibility doesn’t eliminate either responsibility or choice. At the end of the day, it’s all up to you whether or not you give up on yourself.
That’s why I bother to write and to share. Learning of my worth and learning to trust myself have had the most impact on my life especially my physical and mental wellbeing. Fog gone, awareness spiffed up, wholeness intact.
Now when my back aches or I’m working through a health issue, I begin with a fully formed, solid foundation. Through awareness I take in what’s up, what needs release, and what needs adoption.
I bring this foundation of awareness to my healthcare appointments and instead of the abject fear of before, I am aware of possibility and the consequences of my choices. I’m not looking for cure or perfection. I’m looking to be aware of what shifts bring me to optimal function given the current condition of my body, mind, heart, and soul. I seek out medical professionals who share and support an integrated approach to wellness.
Let’s shift perspectives again.
Black and white. On and off. Good and bad. These are expressions of the duality we live within. Something and it’s opposite. What Is and What Is Not.
The worst is perfection and its flip, failure. If I am not one, I’m the other. And like all if-then suppositions, the dual opposition encourages a situation which may not be truthful for you.
Yet this is the fall back for position for most. If I’m not good, I’m bad. If I’m broken, I’m unfixable. Whatever is perceived as not able to exist in the face of What Is Not.
When life is going fast and furious, it can be hard to get a step back to see from a shifted perspective. The push of life makes it difficult to take a different view.
However, from a new point of view, the duality coexists in balance. The choice isn’t either-or. The choice is either-and.
This broader view helps take in that the dualistic choice is often based on false assumption or situationally enforced. No longer feeling forced to buy into either-or, able to question the validity of the current if-then, other options and paths have room to appear in your awareness.
Healing is approached as either or and sets up a false idea again about what it means to heal. The idea is to find the good place, not the bad place. The unhealed is the bad place. The perspective sees the solution as getting out of the bad and into the good.
Dynamically, within the perspective of the infinite and eternal, the duality coexists peacefully. In other words, one way to say this is What Is coexists with What Is Not. Thus, the black and the white are both present. The good and the bad both exist within What Is.
To see this perspective of both is to shift from the 100-foot view and look from the 100,000-foot view. From this broad perspective, life is seen in a different light where what is and what is not coexist and are not in conflict. This is awareness of what exists. This perspective begins within a sense of well-being and takes the perspective of awareness of different possibilities to expand well-being.
When something feels like it’s out of sync, the initial effort is to find the point of view where balance is and what and through that to see what needs releasing.
Personal belief and personal story are constructed from experience and the words and stories from the people around us and from society and culture. These influence self-belief and self-trust. To shift to a sense of worth and wholeness requires shifting awareness of how we look at ourselves and letting go of the beliefs or stories which cloud awareness of wholeness.
Again, this awareness shift keeps life from going down the road of I’m broken, I must fix myself. Instead, the motion is I feel out of balance. The inner experience processes:
I’m aware that I don’t feel balanced.
I’m aware that somehow I’m not seeing where the balance is for me.
What can I do?
Where do I need to let go?
What belief might need to change to help me have clarity?
Do I trust myself in this moment?
If healing isn’t fixing, where do you begin?
You begin with you and how you feel in this moment. Ask yourself this question:
What stands in my way of believing I am whole and not broken?
This is a question about belief – about the beliefs you have about you. Beliefs describe what you see or feel is true about you and your world. A belief is a statement of your truth.
A belief is also a statement of personal trust. The answer to this question reveals what you trust to be true for you.
Also inherent in this question is your existence. I think of existence as I be, I become. I be is who I am right now. I become is who I have the ability to move or shift into. Existence is that continual process of be and become, be and become.
Personal spiritual healing is about getting to clear awareness of how you be and how you become, and whatever might stand in the way of that process for you.
Also in this question is your awareness. Your ability to be present to yourself, to process thought, feeling, sensation, and experience.
Indirectly, the question addresses the idea of stories. Personal stories arise from personal experience and what you tell yourself about the experience. The story covers the good, and the bad. Whatever you tell yourself, whatever the explanation may be becomes a story. Some stories are just in the moment, and you go on from them. Some stories hang on in a way which cause difficulty to be aware of who you are.
Personal stories build over a lifetime, and thus are often mistaken as personal essence – who you truly are. Though a story might help self-understanding, a story is only an explanation of experience and not the essential you.
The point is not to never tell stories. The point is to release the stories which no longer serve your being and becoming.
There’s no one set of exact steps to get everyone to clarity and awareness. Your path exists within the context of who you are, whatever gives you trouble, the context of that trouble, and how the trouble interacts with you. Thus, there’s no one way to get to unawareness of balance.
If you’re stuck in a place where you are convinced you’re broken, there’s almost nothing anybody can do for you. Shift comes in changing story, opinion, and belief through your own effort.
Sometimes this shift comes in letting go. Sometimes, the way to awareness of balance is to feel what you feel.
Essentially, this question is asking you to think about what gets in the way of you believing you are whole.
Maybe the issue is your EBFJs: expectation, blame, fear, and judgment. Any of these can push at belief, self-trust, and the choices which lay ahead.
This shifts the focus away from what tears life down. The new focus is towards that which sustains life.
All of this is to say that healing is balance. We are not broken, we are whole. Healing isn’t to fix us.
Healing is a process of being aware of balance and being aware of being and becoming – being aware of what holds us back from the clear from the clarity of our awareness.
What is Healing? is one of the articles you can find For Body, Mind, Heart, and Soul.
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